10 Life Lessons from a 23-Year-Old


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Now, immediately, you might read the title of this post and think: What life lessons does someone who hasn’t even reached a quarter of a century have to teach someone else? And to you  I’d say: I don’t blame you for thinking that. But didn’t a wise person once say that age wasn’t about  the number — or something like that? Most of you won’t know more than 5 things about me (and a lot of them were probably learned from this blog), but you should know that I’ve been both fortunate (and sometimes unfortunate) enough to experience more than some people  who are twice my age (all the good, bad and ugly). And through it all, I’ve come to at least learn a few things, even if they didn’t hit me immediately.

Most of my life experiences were pre-made and boxed, just waiting for me to come upon them at some point — that is, if I tell you that I don’t believe in some sort of alternate destiny, where the decisions I’ve made at every fork in the road have led me to those experiences. It’s hard to tell. On the other hand, there are many instances in my short life when it’s been easier to see a cause and effect of a decision I made, myself. Whatever the case, I’ve learned a lot and am still unraveling these clues to living wisely that were so cleverly wrapped up in an experience.

Sometimes the thing you think you’ve learned is not always the bigger picture. Maybe in 10 more years, I won’t have these same lessons to pass on — even when I look back at the same experiences. But for now, these are the 10 life lessons from a 23-year-old:

  1. You can never make someone love you — ever. No amount of guilt, kicking and screaming or mind-games can ever change that. If someone loves you, they just do.
  2. Being jealous or angry of what someone else has is completely pointless. Your lives are entirely unrelated, and what one of you has nothing to do with what the other person does or doesn’t.
  3. Relish your time alone. That overwhelming sense of feeling everything you’re feeling is often the best time to make sense of it all.
  4. Putting yourself out of your comfort zone over and over will only help you to understand what you want in life and what you don’t. Plus — it gets less scary each time.
  5. Keep a journal. It’s the closest you’ll ever get to time-travel (pictures aren’t the same at all), and there’s nothing like hearing from yourself during the happiest, saddest, most tumultuous and ridiculous times of your life.
  6. Have fun. Lots of it. Every opportunity you get to enjoy life, do it. Why would you pass up such precious time?
  7. Make peace with death — with your own and the ones you’ll experience. As soon as you stop seeing it as a tragedy, you can accept it as just another transition.
  8. Work on having faith — in people, yourself, love and life in general. It’s probably the single, most difficult thing to possess, but also the most powerful.
  9. Learn how to properly use they’re, their, there and you’re, your — please! People will and do (rightfully) judge you.
  10. The proper way to sneeze when you don’t have a tissue at hand is into your shoulder — not your hands! Stop the spread of germs, people!!
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13 thoughts on “10 Life Lessons from a 23-Year-Old

  1. This is almost true. I am a 24 year old entrepreneur and I have found that if you spell your and you’re incorrectly people will not judge you. They will ignore you… Completely.

    • Thank you! I don’t know if I know what I’m all about just yet, but it’s very interesting to see how I’m evolving. The journals have really helped with that. Thank you for your comment though and for reading! 🙂

  2. Wonderful list! These are all so important, and it’s crazy but most I’ve only come to realize (like, really realize,not just hear from other people) in the past few years. If only there was a way to get through to people at a younger age–though, sometimes personal experience is the best way to learn.
    I’m turning 24 next week, so you may have just inspired me to put together a similar list. 🙂

    • Thanks, Erin! You know, you’re so right. I always think that to myself when I’m chatting with younger people — “How can I REALLY make you understand?” But I think experience is ALWAYS the best teacher. You can pass along the lessons so they’ll have them in the back of their mind, but as we all know, nothing ever sinks in until you’ve experienced it 1st person! And yes, please do a list! Happy early birthday also 🙂

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  4. Number one has slapped me in the face a few times. Thanks for the laugh. Take your journal and review it with the mindset on how you can improve. That is to learn from life.

    • Don’t worry; I’ve been there too — to my own demise. And totally agree with you; my journal has definitely given me perspective and helped me learn. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

  5. Great post, Foram!

    I love this one: Keep a journal. It’s the closest you’ll ever get to time-travel (pictures aren’t the same at all), and there’s nothing like hearing from yourself during the happiest, saddest, most tumultuous and ridiculous times of your life.

    This is so true. I’ve kept journals ever since I was 5!!! I think it has made me so much more in tune with myself, which is really important. Also, I think that you can learn a lot from your past–how you dealt with certain situations, pain, etc.–and realize that you can move past it. Difficulties can seem so ripe when you first come across them, but you can look back and see how you’ve made it through before. Same thing goes with happiness. Some of the happiest times of my life were probably times that weren’t captured on camera or weren’t “monumental” enough to really remember in the grand scheme of things. Thank goodness I can hear from myself about those times 🙂

    -Allison

    • Hi Allison, thanks for reading and your feedback! That is amazing that you’ve been keeping a journal since you were 5! I bet it’s completely hilarious to step inside your 5-year-old brain. How bizarre! Totally agree with you about how it’s amazing to see how you overcome some things that now seem so trivial or easy b/c you know you already got over it, but at the time it seemed impossible! And it’s so cool to actually almost relive the moments of happiness and excitement because reading memories in a journal are just like time-traveling b/c you know you’ve already experienced it and you get to feel everything all over again! I have a bad habit of not journaling as much as I should, but I’m getting better at it! 🙂
      -Foram

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  7. 10. The proper way to sneeze when you don’t have a tissue at hand is into your shoulder — not your hands! Stop the spread of germs, people!!

    I think this is the way you usually do and like to do the most!!! That’s why you consider yourself the most refined lady in this world?! Hah?!

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